Editors (!?) Note: I really need to get better at noting the writer or voice of the quotes I fall in love with. The title of this post is a quote that came from one of the many authors I follow on medium. I’m sorry I can’t tell you who and if I come across it again I’ll be sure to update this post.
It strikes a chord and perfectly describes the experience of change. While I believe it’s true that when one door closes another one opens, I’m learning that all the quotes are missing the bit in the middle.
After something ends and before something new begins there is this uncomfortable place. Our writer calls it fog/fear. You can’t quite see what’s coming. I’m currently in this middle bit. I don’t know if I’d quite describe it as fear. To me, it’s more an underlying anxiety that’s wearing on me. I’m not a fan of the unknown.
I’m finishing a few chapters this year. I’ve finally started making some progress towards my life goals. Ticking things off lists means I can move forward, set new goals and start the next chapter. That’s great, so why doesn't it feel the way it should?
I’m proud of my achievements this year. Happier with the changes I’ve made but this sense of the unknown is grating on me. The damn fog is hard to be in.
I’ve never been in this place before, or if I have, I’ve not been aware of it. Do you wait for the fog to clear or do you just take off in any direction and keep going until you’re out of it? I don’t know.
While I’m here in this place I don’t understand, I’m reminding myself of what I do know.
The Fog Will Clear - Nothing lasts forever.
Being here isn’t hard, just uncomfortable - you’re not in a bad place. You've been much worse off before.
Fog or no fog, you get to decide the direction you want to go in.
The chapter is ending, the story isn’t. It’s just the next piece of the puzzle.
Going to bed now is probably your best next step. Wake up fresh after processing these thoughts and decide what you want to do.