Have you ever seen a designer bag, or pair of shoes and instantly fell in love? Have you ever walked around a high end store, feeling like you don’t belong but wishing you did? I am most definitely one of those people.
I confess, I have a designer bucket list. A list of my dream designer items that I will one day own and cherish. It may be considered materialistic and I’m okay with that but today I crossed that threshold. I officially own a high end bag. My boyfriend now has arm candy, with arm candy... or so I like to tell him.
Buying this bag has come at a very interesting time to me. Maybe it’s nothing or maybe it’s somethingbut I am choosing to give it meaning and I hope it clicks with you too.
Who Do You Want to Be?
Do you ever play that game where you imagine your dream future life and how brilliantly perfect it will be? You know the one. You have the fancy job, big car, loving family, wonderful social life and a mansion to come home to in the evenings.
But then you come back to reality, right? Wrong.
Why would you create this wonderful life for yourself and then tell yourself you’ll never have it? Let’s face it. That right there. The “coming back to reality” kills those dreams, instantly. If you say you’ll never have it then you won’t. Why would you work towards something that you believe you’ll never have?
Here’s the thing though. Whenever I would dream up my ideal life. I’d tell myself that I can in fact have it, if I work for it and then go about my daily life. Now before you run off thinking this is a post about taking action, calm down there Betty, it’s not. I have another question.
What do you talk to yourself about?
How often do you talk to yourself? Or at least think to yourself. A lot, I would guess. We all do. Now go back over the last few conversations you’ve had in your head and tell me this. Are your conversations uplifting or do they really hone in on how bad of a person your are. Maybe you’re a bad friend, shouldn’t have got your job, need to lose weight or get braces. Whatever.
Can you see where I’m going with this? How can you ever expect to get to where you want to go, without a struggle if your number one enemy is you?
You’d never tell your friend, mother, partner that they’re a bad person so why would you tell yourself that exact thing? But many of us do.
Fighting Your Inner Critic
Recently I have been reading a book by Louise Hay. This idea of your inner thoughts and beliefs affecting your outer life is prevalent throughout the book. She presents it in such an easy to understand way.
Implementing her practice however has been a lot more difficult. You never realise how badly you speak about yourself or to yourself until you consciously listen to yourself. But, putting it into effect has created a subtle shift within me. Accepting myself has been rather changing. If even, just minutely.
Now back to the bag... Two days ago I was once again perusing designer items (at a discount) on theoutnet.com. When I came across a stunningMichael Kors bag. For once I didn’t start inundating myself with thoughts of whether or not I deserved it/ could afford it/ was the type of person who could “pull off” designer items etc.
I looked at it, thought “is this something my future self would own?” answered “yes” and tried to buy the bag. I’d like to emphasize Tried here. Because everytime I hit “purchase” I was told that there was an issue, Please try again. My bank then sent me a polite text to tell me that there was some unusual expenses on my card.
Unusual Expenses? Apparently I’m not the type to buy designer.
Panic set in. Maybe, I’m not the type. Maybe, this is a sign I shouldn’t buy the bag. Maybe I’m getting ahead of myself here.
I have the money, I like the bag. My future self is the type to own a bag like this. Telling the bank that this transaction isn’t unusual is a way for my bank to get to know my future self. It’s a way for me to take a step in the right direction to becoming the person I want to be.
So, obviously I bought the bag. It arrived today and I love it. Beautiful, simplistic design, functional and most importantly, more me than I ever could have imagined when perusing the site.
The Bag is not the Point
Some of you may be reading this thinking Jeez it’s just a bag, calm down. But if you are, I think you’re missing the point.
No, the bag is not the point, but it represents a shift. A shift in thinking, to a place I’ve never been before. A place of accepting that I can do, be and have the things I want in my life.
The simple fact is, who you are in your head is who you are in life and by shifting my patterns of thought ever so slightly I have accepted more into my life. More in line with the person I want to be. And I know that by continuing this thought process it will bring more and more and more.
What do you think?
Am I Blowing this out of proportion or do you think something so simple can create a subtle shift. Have you any significant events that show a change in your thinking? Let me know!