I Can’t Tell You How to Do It

My mother used to tell me “you can’t have it all” , “that’s not how life works”, “don’t be stupid, think about a reasonable job”. Those statements used to make my skin crawl. They still do. 

Why can’t we have it all? Why is a reasonable job the answer? What even is a reasonable job?

I understand that our parents want the best for us. But is being happy not the point? Is waking up everyday feeling content on minimum wage not better than waking up rich and miserable?

You get one life. One finite amount of time is all we have to play with. Why would you want to dredge through those hours, days, weeks and years miserable?

I’m a creative person. Not in a drawing, coding, moulding kind of way. But more of a let’s do everything manner.  Don’t ask me to do repetitive tasks. I like to be challenged. If I’m not pushed or challenged, I’m distracted. I create something interesting in the mundane to occupy the 8 hours I must be at work and when I run out of challenges I quit.


A good few years ago at thebeginning of my “self-help journey” I came across a quote from Jim Rohn that sets a simple premise. You should set the goal of earning a million dollars because of who you’ll become in the process. I really didn’t understand that statement.

But now I do. And I want to be more than that. I want to create.

Create something. Anything, but along the way I want to create myself. 

I’ve already started and it feels like I’ve moved forward a fraction of a millimetre and a mile all at the same time.

Now don’t get me wrong. If you’re someone who enjoys your job, please stay at it. But if you’re like me and feel like you’re suffocating living as you “should” confined by the rules, then maybe you should join me and see where we end up. Because I can promise you one thing. It’s gonna be a hell of a lot more fun trying to live the best life ever than it is never trying at all.